“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains
favour from the Lord.” Even though
marriage is beautiful but been single too is a blessing depending on what you
do in the season of your singlehood.
Nevertheless, most of us don't really take advantage of this season of our singlehood and make
a lot of mistakes during this period;
i)
Not maximizing your season of opportunity,
career excellence, financial excellence, health life, and social life: as I
said earlier, singlehood is a blessing because it helps you to focus on your
goals, work on yourself, learn a new language, travel abroad for further studies
and enjoy life to the fullest. When you
are single you don’t worry much, you don’t have anyone to think about, and you
don’t invest your time and resources in any relationship so you have got time
for you and you alone; it is the best season of your life yet we tend to mess
around and we don’t really make a lot from this stage as some people do brood
over past relationships, trying to figure out why things didn’t work and as
a result we keep revolving along the same cycle. So ladies and gentlemen, do take advantage of
this season of your singlehood and invest in yourself.
ii) The game of wrong marital foundation: most people don’t understand the concept of love and relationship well. Some do get into relationship for the wrong reasons: some are in it for just ‘sex’, to some it’s because everybody is getting into relationship ‘so lemme also try’ and finally the last group of people particularly ladies, do get into it for monetary assistance so they end up dating two or more guys for the sake of money. So if the foundation of the house is weak, then the whole building cannot stand! The relationship will eventually fall and collapse.
iii) The game of if you love me, let me do it: I suspect most ladies have heard this phrase before…. You see sex is not a proof of love. Most guys use this trick to have sex with their girlfriends which is a big mistake because sex is not love and vice versa. Sex is meant for marriage couples and it is a sin as a single person to engage in it. If you have done it before then talk to your partner and repent. Sex takes away your 'glory'. [Read: The story of Amnon and Tamar, II Samuel 13]
iv) The game of sexual sins: Similar to point four... well this is very common nowadays even among Christian brothers and sisters. You will find a nice single brother or sister and if you should go into their archives, you’ll realize that they might have had a series of sexual escapades since the 80s …. The urge to have sex is soo strong and that many finds it difficult to control themselves... 'myself included' Later we will blame the devil for pushing us into sin. The truth is there is no temptation that is too big for us to overcome. Set your priorities right and discipline yourself to overcome any sexual temptation. [HOW TO OVERCOME TEMPTATION]
v) The game of double dating: hmmm someone once told me that there is no gentleman or lady who is dating just one person; most guys have two or even three girlfriends and ladies too are not an exception! Many people are doing double or triple dating because of insecurity or what some will say a backup plan just incase one relationship doesn’t work out – dear brother or sister, it will end in tears... You may be smart today but not forever. That is why you don’t have to date just anyone. Pastors have been counselling and advicing us in this area; they will normally say, 'pray about your relationships and let the Holy Spirit guide you…' Double dating is a common game of many singles because there is no commitment. If you are double dating please put a stop to it for your own good.
vi) The game of staying together: this one too is not advisable... to pack your things and go to your beloved house to stay with him whilst he has not married you. Before you realize you will be doing ‘wifee’ duties…what if he doesn’t marry you? Then cos 90 dat oo ): Please if you are lady don’t do that because it tarnishes your image and tint your reputation.
vii) The game of TEV (The Experienced Virgin): these are correct virgins but they have done all kinds of things except sex…As a single person holiness is key. “Be holy because I Am Holy” 1Pet 1:16
viii) The game of ‘I am pregnant for you': this one is a scam deployed by some ladies to trap a potential man to marry them. Well love is not by force so if the person doesn’t love you your trap won’t work on them.
ix) The game of dating an unbeliever: If you are a student of the bible you are probably familiar with this scripture. “do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” Yes because two people cannot walk together unless they agree. Dating someone from a different religion is not a sin but you might have issues in the future that is why it is recommended to choose from the same faith. Do not play this game.
x) The game of I am still praying about it: hahaha…well if you know you know. If you are guy and you’ve ever propose to a lady before, then this phrase “I’m still praying about it" is not new to you. Sometimes a lady can delay your request for so long that if you don’t advice yourself, you will not marry. If a lady can delay your proposal for more than 3 months, then you need to rethink about your proposal and move on.
"I have been in a relationship and i have been single but i can confidently say that been single is the best." Legacy
Inspired by the teachings of Bernard Elbernard N.E.
INCREDIBLE
PRINCE
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